When you start a company, and therefore become an entrepreneur, there's probably going to be a lot of people that tell you to change who you are to get what you want out of the business. I'm here to tell you NOT to take their advice. The last thing you want to do is change the thing that makes you unique to fit into a market that is missing you. All you need to learn how to do is make yourself compatible with the market not fit in with it.
Don’t Change Your Personality: Market It
The first thing you need to do is to learn how to market your personality. if you made it this far in life it's clear that you have some great qualities so all you need to do is learn how to make those qualities pop on page, on a website, in a board room, etc. Spend your time being creative about how to make your great qualities apparent, not how to hide them behind the norm. This way, you'll let your best self shine and you'll be confident because you know it's the true you!
Do The Things Your Company Can’t Do
Next, you want to focus on doing things your company can't do and this applies especially to social media. See, corporate entities generally don't have all the capacities and personality traits that make you special so you have to use that to your advantage! Interact with people, make friends, make jokes, be yourself, and let the company be the company; there's no use in trying to be or do something that the company already is or does. So spend your personal time expanding what your business can really be with the business side and yourself.
Have Fun With It
Lastly, you just need to remember how to have fun! I can assume that if you're anything like me you started a company because you saw the way other people are doing things and you thought, "I’m sure I can do better than that! " The corporate world is desperately missing a personal side. We’re shut in by so many walls and formalities that we’ve forgotten that we want to make money and be successful so that we can ENJOY (don’t worry, it’s not a bad word) the things in life that really matter. So be open about enjoying yourself, about having fun and about being a person, a human who’s not just an employee or employer. This will set you apart and it will endear you to others.
One last piece of advice before I go: think about your favorite businessperson. Do they seem to follow all the rules? Do they seem happy? Would you enjoy living their lives? These are things you should be reflecting on as you transition into becoming a public figure: if people can’t see a little bit of themselves in you, they won’t want to follow you. So start being relatable, having fun, and being great at what you do.
It can be hard to start every day with a renewed mentality. After all, if you're like me you wake up with the same problems, the same worries, and the same obligations and promises that occupy every day. But that shouldn't keep you down; I want to help you reset every day, using tips that work for me, so that you're not only getting more out of the day, you're also putting more positive energy into yourself and the people around you.
Reframe Your Circumstances
The first thing you have to realize is that you can't put too much stress on yourself. The world is already going to try to keep you down so at the beginning of EVERY day you have to be the thing that pulls you up. When you wake up, don't let your mind automatically go to all the things you have to do that day: focus in on yourself and have a morning routine that allows you to prepare for the world in the best, most positive way possible: then go attack it and get things done!
Realize Everything Isn't Equally Important
next realize that although there are so many things for you to do in a day (especially if you wear lots of hats like I do), you can't stress yourself out by worrying about all of them as if they're all equally important. Prioritize your day! Realize that there are some things that are important to others, some things are important to you, and some things that are important to your future. Organize things that way (or in whatever way you find best) and you'll find you’re much less stressed and able to focus on accomplishing tasks one at a time, and doing them well. No, tomorrow isn't a guarantee but you have to do what you can now and let the next ‘now’ come when it comes.
Do Your Best and Let The Results Speak for Themselves
As much as you want to be in control of everything you do and everything that happens to you you're just not. The quicker you realize that the easier it will be for you to move forward in confidence, knowing that you're doing your best and that's all you can do. All you can do is take each day in stride, being positive and motivated and pushing for success in all the areas of your life; after that, you can't get caught up in worrying about the rest.
It’s not going to be easy, and it’s not even going to get you instant results. But I can promise you that taking these steps day by day and improving your outlook on life WILL help you reach your goals in a significant way.
Vontoba and I are big on staying healthy, and one of the best ways to do that is with consistent exercise! Because of this, we’re excited to be able to share our workouts with you, starting this Wednesday on our Instagram accounts! We’ll post short clips of us doing the exercises and we’ll have some great routines for you; they require little to no equipment, so that means NO EXCUSES! We hope you join in with us and start a routine of your own -- after all, it’s all about living a happy, healthy life!
Congratulations on your first internship! If you’re reading this, you’re probably a young, bright-eyed college student embarking on the journey towards a career, starting with your first internship. Unfortunately, you probably have no idea what to expect and how to behave in this new setting. It’s going to be easy for you to find articles about how to be professional in terms of dress and behavior; that type of advice is a dime a dozen, if we’re being honest. What you’re going to learn here is how to really get your foot in the door and make an impact in your company, no matter the size of your role. This is a no-excuses, real results article and if you pay attention and implement these tips, I can promise you that you’re going to get MUCH more out of your internship and be better off for it.
Know the company culture
The first thing you need to do is get acclimated with your company, inside out. You need to know all about it: the industry, competitors, and all the expectations that the company has for its employees. Don’t wait until your first day to do this either! Do as much research as possible before you step foot in the office. Not only will you set yourself apart by being more prepared than the average intern, you’ll also find that you’re more confident in your abilities from jump because you’ve done preparation to give yourself the best chance at success. What’s more is that when you know the company culture, you understand how to interact with your higher-ups and other employees and you won’t be that annoying, clueless intern who has to learn all the social rules on the go, as well as your own job role. It’s an investment into yourself and your future, and one that will definitely pay off.
Take initiative and exceed expectations
The single most important thing you can do in the workplace to elevate your status, intern or not, is to take initiative in the workplace. Stop waiting for your boss to drop by your office and give you something to do! If you find that you’re running out of tasks, try going around to other people in your office and asking them if there’s anything you can do to help them or free up their time. They’ll be impressed and you’ll be surprised about how this can help build relationships; people tend to be endeared to you when you make yourself of use to them. Don’t worry about how small the task is, just get to work and you’ll find that the same people you’re serving under will start to be on your side. They’ll offer advice or even just simple kindness and understanding, which will come in handy on your more rough days. This is how you build a network within a company. People will remember what you did for them when you didn’t have to do anything and this is a valuable tool for connecting with others in the workplace. When you start to do more than expected, they’ll notice and it all adds up to make you look like a great intern and even a viable job candidate for the future. Don’t sleep on this tip; get to work!
Learn a marketable skill
Now, everyone has heard the internship horror stories of a summer filled with boring tasks or, even worse, a drudgery of hours spent at the office doing nothing. Well I have good news: this is actually an opportunity. If you’re at an internship where you have access to a computer and the internet, you now have dedicated time and resources to be able to pick up a skill that you can use in the future. Everyone has those things that they’re been meaning to do or learn, like a second language or coding. Make sure the skill you choose has some kind of applicable use to the company you’re interning at, but feel free to be creative! Not only will this come off as initiative on your part, but you’ll get more out of the experience if you’re making sure that every hour spent at the office goes towards something productive. Being able to make something out of nothing is an important skill to have, especially if you’re leaning towards being an entrepreneur or working at a startup; very rarely will you have all the resources and all the answers, but you’ll still be expected to produce and this type of mentality is the first step in that direction.
At the end of the day, you’ll have a lot of figuring out to do but with these tips you should feel much more confident as you begin to navigate the workforce. Just remember to keep your wits about you and to contribute in whatever ways you can, as this will always push you in the right direction.
Just had the most insightful convo with my 12 almost 13 years of marriage husband around arguments. Enjoy:
Men argue like this: kids want "sauce" to accompany their chicken nuggets so they yell out they need some sauce. Dad gets up and gets ketchup because that's what they normally eat. Dad sits down figures they are done. He eats a bit and finds out, no they needed BBQ sauce and mom wants water. He gets up gets it. He sits down, starts eating again and he notices he has no forks. He gets up again. This happens the entire meal the family is done but dad is frustrated. Women argue like this: kids want "sauce" and she goes to the fridge, and the cabinets gets 3 different kinds and grab forks and knives and napkins too... she over does it. She is hoping to not have to get up again. Dad is frustrated that she has taken so much time to get what they want. What's the difference? Men like to one and hopeful done. Women like to pull out almost any and everything to completely obliterate it. Both without understanding of each others thought process can be difficult to swallow.
3 Tips to Argue Better
1. Understand And Appreciate That You Argue Differently
Based on my true story above you will see that we as men and wile tend to argue just a little differently from each other. But what we do with that info is all the news. Knowing that your partner thinks differently should help you understand their method. If you understand who they are then you can successfully manipulate your message to be in tune with how they hear. This way your partner feels like you understand them and are responding to their feelings. If they want a one and done then say that you understand that but you would like to cover a few more topics under the same playlist. This will help calm the defensiveness and balance the want to work through the issues.
2. Get To The Heart Of The Matter
I like working hard to discover exctky what the issue is so we can dive in and work through and around the complexity of the total issue. This takes time and a one and done method may be frustrated with this process. But if we explain each to other what the root issue is and the super powerful thing that is frustrating then both parties can work less to get to a resolve. For men this means a shorter aruguement and for women this means less emotional drag to get your point across.
3. Prepare To Resolve
if you aren't expecting to effectively resolve an issue you won't. You can't be effective if you don't share with each other your end result intentions. Immediately when an argument starts tell your partner this is something you want to resolve amicably. This let's all powerful anger subdue a little. It's tellin anger that is lurking in the atmosphere that you are agreeing already that you are on the same team. This immediately allows tensions to die and peace to step in and be helpful to the situation.
I'd love to hear from you. Did this work for you? Did you share this message? I want the best for you and I am believing the best for you.
Life coach & Business Coach
I woke up early like I always do this morning and felt like I heard clearly in my head that today would be one of the best days of my life. I'm about 3/4 through the day and including all the running, it was good but best is a BIG discriptive word to me.
Rethought about the concept while making dinner for the 5 of us. (Cheeseless cheese steaks for us tonight.) I decided it was a great day. I interviewed with CW and with a radio station in Delaware and met with the Boys and Girls Clubs of Collin County and took an intern to lunch and even scoped out a new super awesome make up artist. But to say best- again, that's deep. But here is the big Ah-ha: I think we are responsible for making our days the best day of our lives. All day I was expecting greatness. All day I was like, oh, that's okay, I won't let that get me down, not on the best day of my life!
Make them all your best days
Then I get it! Make them all the best days of my life. Wake up every morning with that great expectation of greatness and settle for nothing less than awesome. I think my entire spirit was lighter and my life seemed for just one day, and the first day of many, much more bette - best in fact!
Try it! Change your thought tomorrow. Choose to make it your best day ever!
Founder & CEO
Life Coach & Business Coach
If you are anything like me you have your hands busy at all times and by the end of the day you are pooped and your brain is half way still on and you don't want to use the last little steam you have to try to figure out how to keep people from noticing "we just had that!" So what do you do, well, usually we buy more food or more items and before we know it we are buying mismatches in foods to complete one meal and we are left with a lot of - how do I say - left shoes! Don't you hate grabbing a new shirt to match the skirt or pants that you got because the one you got last time didn't quite match up. But when you get home you find that the shirt is still a couple shades off! This is so frustrating! I do this with my kids clothes more often than not. I get a basic short and plan to complement it with shirts for different days - but no, I get wrong colors that don't match up right.
Dinners can be this way if you don't shop right the first time.
Anytime I'm shopping I like to be dinner hacker and say to myself, can this particular thing be done on it's own? Can this style hold an entire show on it's own? I get even more particular sometimes and I look up recipes on the foods I'm buying to be sure I can change it up.
Shop in basics
My 4th of July meal was made of some basics that I knew I could redo!
1) Mixed Greens
- where I'm from we just call them "greens"
I make them with Kale, Collard, & Mustard. It is delightful and I will post the specific recipe soon. This is perfect because you can simply use the kale as its own green salad. The collard leaves are so big you can stuff chicken with them or wrap bacon or some other fun food around them.
2) Corn on the Cobb (specify on the Cobb)
- you need this on the Cobb because it allows you to do several things with it as an alternative. If you use it frozen and already husked then you can't serve it on the Cobb. The Cobb offers, creamed, fried, husked, on the Cobb, and even this way that I tried later - sliced off the Cobb.
3) Baked Chicken
- stating the obvious here - super healthy fan favorite here and so much that can be done with it. Wrapped, stuffed, sliced for later. I prepare this pretty bland- simply because I dress it up in every new act I put it in. Look at this like your white dress shirt or your black or blue staple pants. It can fit in with just about anything and can be dressed up or down.
4) Baked Sweet Potatoes
- I'm learning more and more about this! Looks like sweet potatoes are awesome even sliced up later like I did, refried in circle slices in the skillet, squashed & mashed, and my new favorite - cut in half and stuffed with chicken and a green veggie favorite. (Kale please)
Here is how I did this extreme leftover make over!
1 sliced wheat hoagie
3 sliced long- ways thin cutlet size baked chicken
1 husked ear of corn
1 large pre baked sweet potato
1 cup of greens
1/8 cup shredded cheese
load and bake till warm and melted (which ever occurs first) then add a favorite spicy or sweet sauce to a top toasted bun.
And there you have it! You've made an extreme makeover out of yesterday's meal!
Life Coach, Business Coach
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Please note, this is what I made my family, my meal is shown below.
My babies have a lighter pallet so here is there meal:
Lifestyle coach: Are you eating swim suit ready?! We ate so good and clean yesterday! Sweet Potato 🍠, Greens, Millet, asparagus salad, beef ribs, Kobe Burgers (no buns) 🌽 corn, and white food cake with strawberries 🍓 blueberries, and all natural whipped cream! This is how you eat clean & make it taste good on holidays!
Tip: Prepare your list with all you want and desire!
Tip: Look at the list: Anything on the the list able to be made healthier?
Tip: Look at the list: Anything on the list super unhealthy
Tip: If it's not going to get you towards your goal, why add it to your cart?! Shop the healthier foods - lean towards greener, cleaner veggies and proteins over starch and carbs
Tip: Plan to eat early so you have longer to digest it!
Try this new dish with me!
So I'm reading a beautiful new book on eating healthy and trying new foods and I stumble across this new food called Millet.
Although millet is most often associated as the main ingredient in bird seed, it is not just "for the birds." Creamy like mashed potatoes or fluffy like rice, millet is a delicious grain that can accompany many types of food. As with most grains, millet is available in markets throughout the year. (Wiki on Millet)
The short of it is it's super healthy and high in protein and low fat and tastes great!
I had never heard of it but I thought, the next time I'm in Sprouts in going for it! And there it was, my new relationship had begun. I looked at it- my dreamy new recipe add and it looked back at me. It had dreamy eyes of "on sale" and I thought it MUST be love at first sight!
I quickly pinned a great new recipe! I thought I was hot stuff! But the recipe called for Asparagus and let me tell you- I don't come from a long line of women that cooked with asparagus! Try greens and shaved bacon! So Pinterest was my new great grandma, destined to show me the new way around my kitchen.
Just as it has to happen to me, I think, "hey, I'm gonna try a new healthy grain! My kids are in the car with daddy and I have this cart all to myself! And Hey, I'm able to find a recipie that I can actually do! What?! I'm amazing at this point and the recipie that calls for asparagus must have been in everyone else's inbox this weekend because the asparagus was all gone!! Aaaaahhggghh!!!!" No fear, I look to my left and there is one last bushel left. But the guy in my peripheral is gaining in on me! I kindly speed up and SWIPE! Crazy lady takes the bushel! At least I'm sure that's what he was thinking!
All is well but when I actually got home to make the recipie my taste buds and my kids' voices started to have a fist fight in my head. I thought there is no way I'm going to get them to eat this! And since I forgot I was making a broccoli salad - and actually cooked my entire broccoli bush then - I now had a ton of extra salad material to play with.
My New Salad Recipe
1 bushel of Asparagus( don't go there) (boiled, cooled with ice quickly then dried and chopped in 4ths
1 red pepper (originally for broccoli salad) chopped
1 yellow pepper (also originally for broccoli salad) chopped
1 pear (decided agains cranberries but needed a sweet but mild fruit) chopped
1 bush of parsley (I thought this was in the photo above on Pinterest as a decor. Needless to say it got added for flavor) diced
1/2 yellow onion package ( I decided I'd try not crying and not not being able to see my 2 year old when she comes in the kitchen asking randomly for water) pre -chopped (don't judge me)
3 lemons ( Hubby squeezed them for me) he really felt like he was doing a good deed for our family meal ;). We've got 15 years - this is how you do it! Squeezed
MILLET!! My star!! 1 cooked cup. Prepared exactly like rice but healthier and yummier.
I stirred my salad and placed it on top of the millet. It was amazing!
Kids did not partake and that's ok! More for me and daddy. Added shredded chicken with it for lunch and made a full meal again!
Business and Lifestyle Coach